Dealing with your Teenagers in menopause

Ah, the teenage years! Now here is a subject I feel I'm gaining an A star in! A time of emotional roller coasters, dramatic outbursts, and endless eye-rolling. Just when you think you've got a handle on parenting these delightful creatures, along comes menopause to spice things up!  

Picture this: your teenager's hormones are raging, and your own are going haywire. It's like a perfect storm of mood swings, tantrums, and the occasional hot flush. Fear not, dear mothers! In this comical yet practical guide, we will navigate the treacherous waters of dealing with your teenagers in menopause, armed with laughter and handy tips to help you stay afloat. 

1. Embrace Your Inner Drama Queen: 

Teenagers are known for their dramatic flair, and let's face it – menopause can turn even the most level-headed women into walking soap operas. So why not embrace the drama? Put on your tiara and make it a competition! See whose emotional outburst can outshine the other's. Remember, laughter is the best medicine, and a little healthy competition can make the stormy moments feel a little less intense. 

1. Master the Art of Selective Hearing: 

Between your teenager's relentless complaints about school, friends, and that mysterious creature called "privacy," and your own hormonal symphony, it's essential to master the art of selective hearing. Practice tuning out the noise while maintaining the appearance of attentiveness. Nodding and saying, "Mmm-hmm" at appropriate intervals will work wonders. And hey, it might even help you avoid unnecessary arguments! 

1. Find Your "Zen Den": 

When the tempest of teenage angst and menopausal madness becomes too overwhelming, retreat to your "Zen Den." This could be a cozy corner of your home, a peaceful garden nook, or even a bubble bath sanctuary. Stock it with comforting essentials like scented candles, soft blankets, and your favourite Mother Cuppa. Remember, it's okay to take some time for yourself. Recharge those batteries and emerge ready to conquer the chaos! 

1. Establish a Secret Code: 

Communication with teenagers can feel like deciphering an ancient language. Add menopausal brain fog to the mix, and it's a recipe for confusion. To save your sanity and prevent misunderstandings, establish a secret code with your teenager. Create hand signals or use a shared phrase to indicate when either of you needs a moment to cool down or when it's time to call a ceasefire. It's a light-hearted way to diffuse tension and ensure everyone's needs are met. My daughter and I also have secret emoji codes we text each other!  

1. Get Out of the House: 

Sometimes, the walls of your home can feel like they're closing in on you. Take a break from the battleground and explore the great outdoors. Plan family hikes, beach trips, or even impromptu dance parties in the living room. Fresh air, exercise, and a change of scenery can work wonders for everyone's mood. Besides, embarrassing your teenagers with your killer dance moves is a surefire way to distract them from their own frustrations. 

Teenagers and Emotional Challenges during Menopause:

Parenting during menopause comes with unique emotional challenges. Your teenagers may struggle to understand the changes you're going through, and you, in turn, might find it challenging to manage their emotional upheavals. Navigating adolescence and menopause simultaneously can be overwhelming, but it's crucial to remember that open communication and empathy are the keys to maintaining a strong parent-teen relationship. Share your experiences with your teenagers, and encourage them to express their feelings openly. By showing vulnerability and understanding, you can create a supportive environment for both yourself and your teenagers during this challenging time.

Menopause and Coping Strategies for Teenagers:

As your teenagers witness the effects of menopause on you, it's essential to involve them in discussions about coping strategies. Explain to them that menopause can cause mood swings, selective hearing, and other changes that might affect your interactions. Encourage your teenagers to be patient and understanding while you navigate this phase together. Additionally, consider engaging in self-care retreats or activities as a family. Menopause self-care can benefit everyone involved and foster emotional support and togetherness. By involving your teenagers in coping strategies, you help them build resilience and empathy, strengthening your parent-teen relationships during menopause.

Conclusion: 

As a mother navigating the turbulent seas of parenting a teenager while enduring the stormy throes of menopause, it's important to approach this chapter of life with a sense of humour and a dash of practicality. Embrace the drama, perfect the art of selective hearing, and establish your own sanctuary to find moments of peace. Remember, communication is key, so develop a secret code to navigate the maze of teenage emotions. And when all else fails, step outside and let nature work its magic. Together, we can survive the perfect storm of dealing with teenagers in menopause, knowing that laughter and a few well-earned moments of tranquillity are the secret weapons